This January I have been reading this book by David Goggins, Can’t Hurt Me. The reason I cannot put it down is that Goggins teaches about meeting life on its own terms. I resonated with this lesson because most of my stress in life always stem from fear of being overwhelmed by life. Goggins offers a way out by seeking out suffering and making himself physically and mentally hard.
Mentally, I am making a list of the several ways I can prove myself that am not intimidated by life. The first one which I have already implemented is to forgive myself. This one has been tough. I have fallen play of many manipulators since I became an adult. Each of these events have made me hold a grudge against myself. These instances form the largest part of my trauma. I chose to let go and every time the negative voices remind me of my gullibility and weaknesses, I weather that suffering and emerge stronger. The other one is saying no to people who have held my hand for the longest time. This one has been especially difficult because, I am basically a sweet person. But if my spirit no longer agrees with you anymore despite of the deep bond we have formed over the years, just know that am walking out on you, no offense intended. I think life is too short for long term loyalties. There is so much for me to explore in this life that I will not be held back anymore.
Lastly, I have decided to be an entrepreneur and that means I have several startups in my belt. I will stay at it until I get to the other side which consist of fat bank accounts, plots of land, and several motor vehicles in my name. I will get knocked down but just like Goggins, I will get back up and keep pushing my limits. This reminds me of the 42-year-old man who attempted KCPE the ninth time, until his demise this month of January 2025. The story teaches me that the smallness of the goal does not matter. What matters is the spirit of the person attempting to reach it.
Let’s mess with life by taking beating after beating until we get to those goals we want and once we get there, we do not rest, we seek loftier goals that will bring along more suffering. It is the only way to face life on its own terms.
