Chirywrites :Heal Your Traumas

Our minds are designed to keep memories of the things that happen to us. From our childhood, we learn to perceive the things around us. While we may claim to know what we want once we become adults, it really comes from a place of experience. There is most likely a reason why things scare you to why the do.That place that you don’t like to go, if you look closely, reminds you of something else. The type of people you don’t like—why don’t you like them? Is there a reason as to why you no longer eat certain foods? Does it have anything to do with what happened the last time you ate? Does it remind you of something else? Why don’t you like it? The triggers that come with interacting with people—why does a specific behavior bring out the wild in you? Someone mentioned today that most Kenyans are bullies online. Why are we bullying people we don’t even know? Hours on end, people will drag someone; they will even find out personal stuff about them to humiliate them. Well, we need to look at why we have let the ugly in us be the thing that describes us. One of the people here was insulted in their inbox for no reason at all. Then, when he threatened to unmask the person, including where they work, she apologized, talking about how she needed the job. When you have something to lose, why not put yourself in a position where you can? Well, say you have nothing to lose. Why would you insult a stranger you don’t know? Anyhow, this is what I think: everyone has something they are going through one way or another, be it a good or bad thing. We all have our lives. It wouldn’t be nice, though, to look at people from the perspective that we are all different rather than from an attacking angle. Just because you are hurting doesn’t give you the right to hurt others. Their opinion is different from your own, so what? Isn’t that what makes us special? Heal from the things that trigger you. Most people don’t forgive those who hurt them, which is why they are quick to want to hurt other people. Subconsciously, you tell yourself what they deserve. The person who is excelling in their trade is angry because you aren’t. Don’t you see that even if they weren’t excelling, you still wouldn’t because you are focused on what your competition is doing rather than what you should be doing? That beautiful-looking family that you keep telling them their relationship won’t last—don’t your jealousy be based on the fact that you have no one? And even if you get someone, do you really think you can keep that person with your belief system, which includes
jealousy.