True companionship is having the grace to realize that in life we get what we need and not always what we want.
“Now we know in part, then we shall know in full.” We may think that what we want is what we need but that is not always the case. In fact, most times what we want is not always good for us.
Think of a person who is addicted to hard drugs. If you approach them and ask them what they want, they will probably tell you that they need a joint. As much as it is damaging to them, they may not want to think of it that way, they probably will still just want the joint. But is that what they need? Certainly not. Nothing was meant to have that much control over a human being.
Humans were given responsibility over earth and everything on earth. They were meant to have dominion on earth and not things on earth having dominion over them. This person probably needs medical attention and especially therapy.
Most women say that they want tall dark and handsome men. Is that really what they need? A woman needs a man who loves her, whom she can feel safe around, a man whom she loves and respects. A man who can provide for their family unit together and the woman can assist. A man who can speak life into her; encourage her towards what she is good at. She needs a friend, a companion. If he does all these and is dark, tall and handsome well and good. If he does all these and is light skin, medium height and handsome well and good.
Some men say they want light skin women, or curvy women etc. Is that who they really need? Or do they need a friend, a companion. A helper, a supporter. One who respects him. A wife, a mother to his children if they have children.
Sometimes we major on the minors and minor on the majors. It is important to get one’s priorities right otherwise, life will often do that for us.
It does take courage to say, I accept that this is what I need and not what I want and am okay with it. It is wise to get what we need when it comes to some things, rather than what we want. Many people have gotten things, even people that they wanted and realized that it wasn’t necessarily what they needed. For some they have turned a new leaf, for some they have looked at the work needed to get what they need and have just given up. We need to be wise enough to not always let experience teach us. Because sometimes it is not the best teacher. It can be at times cruel.
In essence, this message encourages us to seek what is truly beneficial and fulfilling in the long term, rather than being swayed by fleeting desires or societal expectations. It reminds us that true fulfillment comes from aligning our actions with our genuine needs and values.
So humans don’t really know what they want?