True and genuine friendship is very pleasant to watch and even more to experience. I’m sure you’ve have come across people who are friends, and the realness and genuine concern for each other is admirable. It always looks like a wonderful experience from afar and especially if you have experienced it or are even experiencing it. This type of friendship is not necessarily perfect, no friendship is anyway, but this friendship is real, it is true, it is genuine. It is not self-seeking.
Am sure you have seen this type of friendship somewhere, and if you’re lucky even experienced it or are experiencing it or rather you are in it. Definitely treasure it, because as humans we can at times be so self-seeking that we come into things looking for how it will benefit us. However, this kind of friendship is not really all about self-sacrifice, it just calls for maturity. To have an understanding that we are all adults and no one has to be childish. To be able to communicate our needs when it comes to the friendship and have them met in a mutually beneficial way.
This kind of friendship calls the people in it higher. Being in the friendship sort of immediately levels one up. Whether mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, socially, relationally, financially etc. It calls for maturity hence phoniness is not appreciated in this kind of a friendship. It is not for show. This friendship calls one deeper. It calls one to be grounded. It gives the ones in it a sort of grounding. The reason many people are often shaken, is because they lack genuine friendships and therefore, it becomes easier to fall into traps. A genuine friendship is reciprocal; it is mutually beneficial. You will find that because life is seasonal and it at times fluctuates, one person will be stronger in one season and then another is stronger in another season. Hence, they can sometimes draw a bit of strength from each other.
There is a Biblical story of a man who was paralyzed and so his four friends brought him to Jesus to be healed. They couldn’t access Jesus so they decided to dig a hole in the roof of where he was teaching and lowered their friend to him. The man was healed. He however, didn’t have the strength to take himself for healing, but his friends had. This is what true friendship calls for. It is sometimes drawing strength from each other because life can sometimes be tough, and sometimes we need a stronger hand at that time to hold us.
True friendship is not self-seeking. It is about reciprocity within a context of maturity.
True friendship feels fulfilling
It truly does.
absolutely