Many times, we think we are alone in our suffering, a perception that deepens our anguish. What if I told you that whatever you are going through this very second, there are more than a hundred people experiencing the same anguish? For me, at this moment I am suffering from failed communication. I failed to communicate to a friend who is helping me to start up a business hustle and now I can’t stop beating myself about it. This golden friend reminded me that timely communication was key as she had little time to follow up given her tight travel schedule. I was devastated. I was supposed to call them the previous day but I kept postponing it. Then I got caught up in some family drama which aroused some unresolved stress within my soul. So, I ruminated all night and postponed till the last minute. I have still to forgive myself for failure on my part. I need this particular connection to work and yet I almost sabotaged it. So right now, I feel stuck and am having one negative loop after another. At this moment I cannot trust my mind to solve my problems, because it is part of the problem.
Luckily, the universe has reminded me that my mental state is not unique. I bumped into a neighbour who had requested me to connect them to a good electrician last week. I had made the connection last week but somehow the neighbour did not follow through. Now, they were narrating how they have missed important calls as their electricity sockets have not been working for a while. I listened to them, watched their suffering and said nothing. I was numb from my own mental state. I also talked to another friend who made me aware of how their business has suffered as they have been feeling down for no reason. Thinking about all this made me realize that all human suffers in similar ways. Procrastination is a problem for many and so is poor communication. Other issues such as bad weather, lethargy and hopelessness also disrupt people’s progress.
So, the next time you find yourself suffering from one of your misgivings remember that other people are also battling their mistakes too. This is not mean that tomorrow you won’t be a success. Just pick up yourself and keep going. I know it will take long to get over some issues. For instance, I take really long to forgive myself and I have to await my system to get hyperactive to rise up again. Well, we have to do what we can to survive this life. We cannot allow ourselves to fall prey to self-destructive patterns. We have to win over our demons or at least hold out until they get tired of pinning us down. (Let me go for some fresh air. My demons hate it when I do that).
